If you have experienced a miscarriage or other pregnancy loss, it is essential that you take steps to take care of your mental and physical health. Your mental health is likely the last thing on your mind as you navigate your grief, but so important so that you can work through the emotions.
People process grief differently. Some may choose to talk about it to a therapist or other person. Some may choose to avoid people for a while. Other methods to deal with grief include reading, writing, drawing, or listening to music.
One way to help process grief is by listening to meaningful music. Music therapy has been shown time and time again to be an effective treatment for depression, anxiety, and more. Have you ever heard that perfect song that helped you feel better or evoked a strong emotion out of you? In this post we will discuss some songs that may help you get through your grief after a miscarriage or pregnancy loss. Here is a list of 15 songs about baby loss. Hopefully you will be able to relate or find comfort in one of the songs listed.
If you prefer to read to help process your emotions, see our post on 24 Books to Read After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Pregnancy Loss.
Songs About Baby Loss
1. “Winter Bear” – Coby Grant – Grant wrote this song about a couple she knew that had a stillborn baby. She wrote the song thinking also of all the other people she knew that had experienced pregnancy and infant loss.
“I knew you before I knew your name. I loved you before I saw your face. I longed for you all that time. And I held your heart in mine.”
2. “I Would Die For That” – Kellie Coffey – Coffey experienced fertility troubles and had a miscarriage. She wrote this expressing all the sadness and grief she felt at the difficulty of her journey to start a family.
“Cause I would die for that. Just to have one chance to hold in my hands all that they have.”
3. “More” – Halsey – Halsey has been open about her fertility struggles and her losses. This song was written about Halsey’s struggle with endometriosis and her multiple pregnancy losses.
“They told me it’s useless, there’s no hope in store. But somehow I just want you more.”
4. “Small Bump” – Ed Sheeran – Sheeran wrote this song for a friend who experienced a pregnancy loss at four months pregnant. He chose to write it from the perspective of his friend who experienced the loss.
“Cause you were just a small bump unborn for four months, then torn from life. Maybe you were needed up there. But we’re still unaware as why.”
5. “Gone Too Soon” – Daughtry – Daughtry wrote this song after the birth of his twins. It came to have a double meaning because he found after playing it for his brother, that his brother’s wife had experienced a pregnancy loss in a prior year.
“Like a rainbow, fading in the twinkling of an eye. Gone too soon.”
6. “Spark” – Tori Amos – Amos wrote this song after she suffered a pregnancy loss in her third month of pregnancy. She was angry at the world and angry at God and used this to motivate writing her music.
“She’s convinced she could hold back a glacier, but she couldn’t keep baby alive. Doubting if there’s a woman in there somewhere.”
7. “Happy” – Pink- Pink was partially motivated to write this song because of a miscarriage she experienced at only 17 years old. She talks of not liking her body at the time and part of it was because of this miscarriage.
“‘Cause I don’t want to be this way forever. Keep telling myself that I’ll get better. Every time I try I always stop me.”
8. “Something’s Not Right” – Lily Allen – This song was written by Allen after she suffered a pregnancy loss. It refers to when some women know something is not right when they are going through or about to go through a loss.
“We had forever. We never got it together. I waited for you, for you I made it better.”
9. “Thy Will” – Hillary Scott – Scott wrote this song in 2015 after experiencing a miscarriage. She talks about the difficulty in returning back to “normal” life after experiencing a pregnancy loss. Scott writes it as a letter to God about not understanding why bad things like pregnancy loss happen.
“I’m so confused. I know I heard You loud and clear. So I followed through. Somehow I ended up here.”
10. “Heaven” – Beyoncé – Beyoncé wrote this song after her miscarriage about Heaven not being able to wait and her child being taken too soon. It does not mention a child specifically, but she has been open about having a loss.
“Heaven couldn’t wait for you. So go on, go home.”
11. “I Still Know You” – Jacob Lee – Lee created this song that tells of a couple that is experiencing a pregnancy loss. He writes it from the perspective of the father trying to piece together what happened while looking upon the mother of the child.“
And though I’ll never be able to describe how you were born with your Mother’s eyes. And how your hands felt when they met mine. And how Luke thinks we look alike.”
12. “Giving You Back” – Robyn – Robyn used this song to share her experience with terminating a pregnancy and the emotions that go along with that decision. This subject is deeply personal and something that many feel they cannot share or talk about.
“And it hurts me so to let you go. I want you to live but I’m not all I wanna give.”
13. “You Wouldn’t Cry (Andrew’s Song)” – Mandisa – Mandisa was performing at a concert when she met a pregnant woman. She found out a week later that the baby, Andrew, had been stillborn. She wrote this song from Andrew’s perspective about all the things he was seeing in Heaven.
“What you think you see isn’t really me. I’m already home. You’ve got to lay it down ’cause Jesus holds me now. And I am not alone.”
14. “I Will Carry You (Audrey’s Song)” – Selah – This song talks of a couple (lead singer of Selah and his wife) that received devastating news about their baby during an ultrasound. They were told she was incompatible with life and would need to terminate. Instead, they chose to carry her as long as they could and got to spend a few short hours with her after she was born.
“I will carry you while your heart beats here. Long beyond the empty cradle through the coming years.”
15. “Little Invitro” – Gary Numan – Numan wrote this song after he and his wife experienced a pregnancy loss. It talks about the grief and anger he felt after the loss.
“How in the world can we ever smile again. How in the world can we live without you.”
The 15 songs about baby loss on this list are a great way to help you through your grief after experiencing a loss. If you are struggling with the emotions of losing a baby, these songs can be healing and provide some comfort for those going through this experience. Remember that it is ok to grieve in whatever way most helps you. Everyone grieves differently. What may work and help some will not be comforting to others. These songs may not make everything better, but they can help you know that you are not alone in your experience. Are there any other songs that helped you after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or other pregnancy or baby loss?
You may also be interested in 24 Books to Read After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Pregnancy Loss and A to Z Emotions of Pregnancy Loss: Understanding the Grief Process.
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