Kate A’s Story

Hi my name is Kate …

I found out at 12 weeks that my first baby/ pregnancy was high risk & that I should have an abortion.. however I talked to my then boyfriend & said I would rather keep the baby & if he would like to leave that now is the time.

At 15 weeks we were told that she had ‘no brain’… However we choose to continue in faith & prayed even to hold her for a bit… We knew she would have to come early due to other medical issues such as heart issues.

I was exactly 20 weeks when we were meeting up with the cardiologist & the L&D doctor at 8:00. We had to travel 2 hours to get to the specialist so we had left before 5:30 am.

By 8:30 we had been told she had passed .. we were then sent to the ultrasound pod where we sat til 11:30 ( yes, with all the healthy moms & babies! It was absolutely terrible!) we weren’t released til 1:30 …

We had to pick up the pill at the pharmacy & we had called my parents in Ky & they made plans to come up asap ( the next day Wednesday)…. Thursday I took the pill to start induction & immediately went into labor ( even tho I hadn’t been called in ,there were no rooms available) I laboured at home & got some last minute funeral things done .. got a small box to bring her home in etc sewed her little blanket… & Bought her little sloth that she was buried with …

We were in London by 8pm & got an IV .. at 9:54 am on Friday Oct 6, Emily Anne Befurt was born .she weighed 9 oz & was 17 cm long .. we were discharged at 12 & headed home .. on the way home we did the hardest thing parents ahould need have to do .. we left her at the funeral home …

He was the best director! Showed us out options & actually cared! Saturday at 4:30 we buried her.. 2 of her uncles( my next 2 younger brothers ) carried her to her plot & my older brother laid her down … We laid her to rest in a beautiful old graveyard out in the country surrounded by friends & family…

We miss you everyday,our precious baby … Love mom & dad!!